Love…. What does the real means of love? What are the types of love? Well, we already discussed the meaning of love. If you are visiting us for the first time and really don’t know the exact meaning of love. then read out our previous writes on love (from here).
Love is the strongest and weakest point of someone’s life. interpreting and understanding the meaning of love is very difficult.
Love can differ from one person to another person. For someone love means everything and for another one love is nothing. Love is having the widest range, or there is love alone.
But when we are saying that everything is love, and we also know that love can have different meanings from person to person. So, the next thing come to our mind that.
Does love is not the same?
How love have different types?
Does love is not true?
Does love not exist?
Just stop these questions for a while because I’m having a cross-question to you.
Love.. So, say that it round the world when you’re in love.
But Does it?
Does Love always makes us Happy and Warm inside? Or
Does it sometimes cause problems in relationships?
Well, you can tell your answers below in the comment box. But the answer is Both.
Sometimes peoples say to me,” Relationships are Hard! ” and I always reply ” No they’re not. We are the ones that makes them hard.”
One way for healthy relationships is understanding the different types of love. Every Person gives and receives love differently. And in addition to that, some people are much more capable of experiencing certain types of love than others.
8 Types of Love According to the Ancient Greeks
Let’s take a look at all the different types of love so you can better understand your own relationships.
1. Agape – Unconditional Love
This is an altruistic, selfless, unconditional love. Agape is a Greco-Christian term referring to love, “the highest form of love, charity” and “the love of God for man and of man for God”.
The Greeks thought it was quite radical, that’s the reason only a few people seem capable of feeling it long-term.
Some people also describe agape as a type of spiritual love. Christians believe that Jesus exhibited this kind of love for all humans. Jesus was selfless and sacrificed Himself so that other humans could be rid of their sins. He suffered for the happiness of others.
2. Eros – Romantic Love
The term erotic is derived from eros. Eros has also been used in philosophy and psychology in a much wider sense, almost as an equivalent to “life energy“.
Eros is named after the Greek god of love and fertility. Hence, it is usually associated with romantic, passionate, and physical love. Eros is an expression of sexual passion and desire.
Although the Greeks thought this kind of love was dangerous, it is still the kind of love that is associated with passionate, sexual love. Even in modern days, some people believe that this kind of love “burns hot and bright, but it burns out fast.”
3. Philia – Affectionate Love
The Greeks defined Philia as “affectionate love.” In other words, it is the kind of love that you feel for your friends.
The ancient Greeks thought this kind of love was better than eros (sexual love) because this represented love between peoples who considered them as equals.
While many people associate the word “love” with romance, Plato always argued that physical attraction wasn’t necessary for love. This type, in particular, is often referred to as “platonic” love – love without sex and romance.
4. Philautia – Self-love
Philautia is self-love. In our modern-day society, most people associate self-love with being narcissistic, selfish, or stuck on themselves. However, this is not what the ancient Greeks meant by self-love.
Self-love is not negative or unhealthy in any way. In fact, it’s necessary to be able to give and receive love from other people. We cannot give to others what we don’t have. And if we don’t love ourselves, how can we truly love others?
Another way to look at self-love is by thinking about it as self-compassion. Just as you might show affection and love to another person, you must also show that same affection and love to yourself.
5. Storge – Familiar Love
Storge can be defined as “familiar love.” Although that’s a strange term, let me explain what it really means.
This type of love looks and feels a lot like philia – affectionate love felt between friends. However, this love is more like a parent-child love.
Just like philia, there is no physical or sexual attraction. But there is a strong bond, kinship, and familiarity between people.
6. Pragma – Enduring Love
The ancient Greeks define pragma as “enduring love.” In other words, it’s almost the opposite of eros (sexual love). Eros tends to burn out quickly because of its passion and intensity. However, pragma is a love that has matured and developed over a long time.
The kind of old married couples who have been together since their teenage years and still hold hands, well, that’s a great example of pragma. Unfortunately, this kind of love is somewhat rare to find – especially in society today. These days, people seem to think the grass is always greener on the other side. And therefore, they don’t have the patience or desire to watch love grow over time.
This type of love doesn’t require a lot of effort in a relationship. Both people are good at making compromises, and each of them puts in equal efforts to make the other person happy.
7. Ludus – Playful Love
Ludus is known as the “playful love.” However, a better way to describe it is the feeling of infatuation in the early days of romance. If you’ve been in love before, you know what I’m talking about.
It’s the butterflies in your stomach, the giddiness you feel when you see your love walk through the door, and the feeling of never wanting to be without them.
Studies show that when people are experiencing this type of love, their brain is acting much like it does if it was on cocaine. In other words, your brain is lit up and active just like someone high on a drug. It makes you feel alive and excited about life.
8. Mania – Obsessive Love
Mania is not a good type of love, because it is obsessive. It’s the type of love that lead someone into madness, jealousy, or even anger. That is because the balance between eros (sexual) and Ludus (playful) is terribly off.
Many people who experience this type of love suffer from low self-esteem. They fear losing the object of their love, and this fear compels them to say or do some “crazy” things to keep them.
If not kept under control, mania can be very destructive in some cases.
We’re all different – and that’s okay accept it. The problems we have in relationships come when we are unable to understand each other fully, especially in the area of love.
Now you know the ancient Greek types of love, Hopefully you can take a good, hard, long look at your own relationships and make the necessary improvements.
Share with your loved one, let them find out the different types of love.
May you Guys Live your life full of happiness, joy and most importantly 🧡💛💙💚💜.